What should she do ?

[PLAYA 2U]

Can I get some feedback on this one?????


This is from the
Steve Harvey Show - DEEP-



Good Morning Steve and the Morning show family, I actually do not know
where to start with my letter. I guess I will start will saying I have
been in tears everyday for the last 4 months. I guess I will also start
by giving you a little history. First of all, my husband and I have been
married for almost 2 years. We met in college when I was a freshman and
he was a junior. When we met, we realized we had a lot in common. We
both grew up in the same city just on different sides of town. So we
didn't know each other. We were raised by strong single black women that
made sure we had the best, we were raised in the church, and we both
wanted to get legal degrees. We got married shortly after I graduated
college and we relocated to Chicago in hopes of attending law school.

When we got to Chicago, I became a nurse instead and my husband got a
position at a legal firm (long story short, we didn't make it to law
school). We both are devout Christians and we have been for most of our
life. We decided that in order to really move forward in our spiritual
life, that we needed to forgive all the people we had problems with
including our fathers. We didn't realize how much that unforgiveness
impacted our own lives. I made it a point to forgive my father in my
heart because I knew it would be difficult to find him. My husband,
however, got in touch with his father and made arrangements to meet up
with him when we went home for our family reunion. They decided to meet
up at the park where the reunion was to be held because they felt that
was a neutral spot. We went home for the family reunion in May.. To my
surprise, my father was there. Even though I hadn't seen him in almost
16 yrs, I knew it was him. I remembered the goal me and my husband had
set for ourselves so I agreed to go somewhere and talk with him as long
as we remained in the park. After about 45 minutes of catching up, I
finally asked him what he was doing at the park on that day of all days.

He mentioned that he was there to meet someone special in his life. I
figured it was probably just another women. Just then, my husband walked
up and said, I see you met my father. At that point, I did pass out
(literally). I woke up in the hospital a couple of hours later. After a
week, my husband went back to Chicago. I remained in our hometown with
my mother. I was not ready to face all the issues on my plate and I
couldn't just go back to Chicago with my husband/brother. After 3
months, I am absolutely confused about what to do. Even though we have
only been married for 2 years, we have been together for almost 5. I
can't imagine my life without him. However, I get sick to my stomach
when I think about the fact that I have been sleeping with my brother
for so long. I know deep down it isn't really our fault. I mean we did
everything right. I know the obvious thing to do is divorce him. But
that is easier said than done. I am not torn between divorce and my
religious beliefs because we got married under false pretenses. My
problem is, I am torn between doing the obvious thing and dealing with
all these emotions at the same time. Please tell me what to do. I don't
think I have anymore tears left to cry.

[RoboNate]

thank god there are no kids from the couple involved.

for the sake of the gene pool and not deliberately sabotaging their chances of healthy children.......they must divorce each other. the thoughts may be sick of sex between siblings but eventually they both will get over it. this is not just a question of what she should do, but of what he should do as well.

they can find romantic love again in their lives, but if something happens to their children from each other........they may never be able to live with themselves again.

[PLAYA 2U]

Nate we all should understand it's wrong to stay married, but can you imagine the emotional ties the couple may have developed ? 5yrs together 2 yrs married sheesh !

For those who are married, this can be a serious hurdle to get over.

[RoboNate]

of course it is a serious hurdle to get over, but when you present the option of living with your husband/brother versus having a healthy non-incestuous child.......there is only one choice to make.

it's like asking you if you would live with your family knowing fully well that you will have to kill an innocent child for doing that......would you do it? if thats the only way i can live with my family, then i'd rather stay away from them.